Entitled sister-in-law tells woman to stop eating her nightly scoop of ice cream so her daughter won't be tempted to eat some, woman refuses: ‘I deserve my little treats’

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May 31, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

Certain parenting styles might clash with the outside world's reality. The two extremes of parenting vary from heavy helicoptering to careless ignorance. It's important to find a balance of the two to help your child exercise what it means to have everything in moderation. One way a parent can practice this balance is through food—a healthy relationship with food looks like having anything you'd like in moderation. Of course, if allergies or dietary restrictions come into play, that's a different story. This also teaches your child to understand what the word "no" means and that not everything in life will be given to them, no matter how big or small.

The woman who posted this next Reddit story is venting about her sister-in-law, who expects her to compromise her dietary routine for the sake of the sister-in-law's daughter. The woman's sister, husband, and daughter are staying with her for the week, and the woman refuses to compromise on principle. Not everyone uses substances to ease the stress of everyday life; some use ice cream and other sweet treats. Scroll to read the entire story below.

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  • Kids should be able to have some ice cream once in a while, right? If the woman decides to share her sweet treat ritual with her niece, that's her prerogative. However, if the woman decides she'd rather not allow her niece to pig out on her vice, that's also fine. The woman shouldn't have to hide or stop her routine completely because her niece cannot take “no” for an answer, a behavior likely enabled by her mother.

  • عدد "Really? Do you seriously NEED to eat ice cream every single day?""
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  • "AITA for eating ice cream every night just like I always do and not stopping just bc my SIL doesn't want my niece to see it?"

    Most nights after dinner, I eat a small ice cream cone. It's literally the little "joy mini cups" with a teeny scoop of ice cream. Maybe
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  • a big scoop if I'm having a rough day but that's kinda rare. I don't drink alcol or smoke w d or do anything "fun" so this is my one fun thing I do for myself.
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  • My brother and his wife and daughter are staying with me for a few weeks, they'll be gone by June 15. I'm happy to have them
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  • here. Usually we'll eat dinner together and go our separate ways for the evening. They watch a lot of TV so they're usually all in the living room watching.
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  • I've been eating my lil cone, but my sister in law approached me and asked me if I could stop. She said that my niece is starting to
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  • ask why she doesn't get to have ice cream and that obviously she was lied to by my sister in law when she told her ice cream is a sometimes food, haha.
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  • I said that I wasn't going to stop but I could wait until she was in bed. I figured that was a good compromise and I do get that she's trying to raise her little girl
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  • to have a healthy relationship with food. But waiting until she was in bed didn't work because she came into the kitchen multiple times to ask me for some.
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  • My SIL was definitely a little incredulous over it and kept saying "Really? Do you seriously NEED to eat ice cream every single day?" or stuff like it. I said
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  • no, but she also doesn't need to drink a glass of wine every day either. She didn't like this and sighed a bunch and has been
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  • visibly annoyed with me since then. My brother asked me if I could stop just to avoid the drama, but I said I deserve my little treats. AITA?
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  • Horse_Latitudes I would give her ice cream ever day. At least she could enjoy being a kid for a few days before she goes back to lock down. NTA
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  • Traditional-Bag-4508 Tell her to stop drinking wine everyday. This is your home. You are an adult. Tell her to not bring wine into your home. NTA
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  • icerguy021 NTA. I cannot stand parents like this. The world is not going to cater to your child. If they bend every little thing because they don't want to deal with their child asking for stuff, how is
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  • your niece ever going to learn to accept "no". Kid needs to learn sometimes people have things they can't have especially adults. Keep eating your ice cream, ignore your sister
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  • BlazeRunnerxx3 NTA your house, your rules. It's not an allergy. SIL could explain to niece that everyone has different habits and that when she's older, she can make those decisions for herself. Having a little ice cream everyday won't hurt you or her. It's her parents decision on what to teach her. They
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  • don't get to dictate what you eat in your own home. You offered compromise. You also had a valid point with the wine, which I would argue can be more dangerous than the ice cream. (I'm not a drinker really so I'm not sure what's appropriate on that front. I probably drink 2 or 3 drinks a year)
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  • TurtleDrowningInTea NTA Your home your routine your body your little treat She created this situation believe it or not You are not harming her parenting or the child by eating food. Explaining moderation and what that looks like is the parents job and she clearly didn't explain it in a way that aligns with many people's reality.
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